When Good Change Feels Bad

by Sara Casey Connell, M.A.R

3) Get Support

Ask for help. Create a support team of people with whom you can be totally honest about all of your feelings the good, the bad, and the ugly. These are friends or family members whose only job is to listen as you express yourself truthfully. You can thank these angels with a card, gift, or by simply being there the next time they need you. If you’re finding it tough, consider scheduling time to talk to a therapist or a life coach to guide you through this period. 

4) Manage the Stress

Build time for yoga, massage therapy or other bodywork (acupuncture, reflexology, etc.) that both relaxes and balances you on the mind-body levels. Consider a weekly treatment during the high stress times. Holistic therapies will address the psychological and physical manifestations of stress, and will leave you feeling markedly better. 

5) Connect to the Good

When you feel irritated or resentful toward your loved ones, remember why you’re going through all of this. Imagine yourself having the wedding of your dreams and beginning a life with this amazing person whom you deeply love. Connect to that initial feeling of excitement in your body when you said, “Yes!”

Take some time with your fiance’ to write a joint vision of the wedding, honeymoon and your future life together. This is a fun exercise that you can do at your favorite coffeehouse on a lazy Sunday afternoon. Read over your list everyday or every other day in order to keep your eyes on the prize. This exercise will help keep you on the same team and connecting to life beyond the wedding. 

6) Laugh

We know it’s good medicine and it feels great! Have fun with friends. Watch silly movies. Poke fun at the crazy things that come up during the planning stages. Laugh a lot and you’ll move through your bad days with grace and ease.

Following this roadmap with a flexible attitude and open heart can help you transcend the struggle and stress of any change. You can experience your spectrum of feelings, take care of yourself AND enjoy the penultimate wedding planning adventure. This is my wish for you!

Namaste.

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Reflexologist and Life Coach Sara Casey Connell, M.A.R. is a women’s health and wellness expert. Her work is about healing, empowering and celebrating women. She began her career in London where she studied holistic medicine with some of the UK’s leading holistic health experts. She has a private practice in Chicago where she also leads regular women’s workshops. She has appeared regularly in “In Balance Magazine”, was featured this month on Brian Chambers television show “Massage Therapy” and is a regular contributor here at Wedding Chicago.

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