Getting Married Later in Life

May 25, 2006

More couples are taking their time to jump the broom before getting married.  Many of them want to wait until they are sure that they’ve met the right one or until they’ve made some headway in their careers.  Whatever the reason, couples are waiting until their late-20s and beyond to get hitched.

I read an article today from Andrew Hermann of the Chicago Sun-Times that discusses this trend of waiting to get married.  Times have changed and couples realize that marriage is a huge commitment that will last for many years to come.  The cost of divorce has grown over the years and it takes a great deal of time, energy and money to split from your betrothed.

I’m so happy that couples are waiting to get married.  My husband and I were in our late twenties when we got engaged and we took our time planning the wedding of our dreams.  I honestly feel that I was much more mature at 29 y.o. to make such a huge decision about my life than when I was in my early 20s.

Taking time to marry your partner might be a good way to prevent a divorce, as well.  During my engagement, I came across a message board where a young woman re-introduced herself to the other brides on the board.  One of the brides mentioned that she thought the bride had already gotten married a few years before, and asked about her experience as a newlywed.  The bride confirmed that she had gotten married three years prior, but that the marriage didn’t last.  She was back on the boards to announce her engagement and to get wedding tips all over again.

Three years is pretty short for a marriage.  I wonder if the relationship & the engagement lasted longer than the actual marriage.  Or, did they rush into marriage and realize that they weren’t compatible? 

That’s why I’m a big proponent of pre-marital counselling.  Take the time to find out if this really is “the one”.  Counselling will help you iron out the kinks in your relationship and will help you get a better understanding of your partner and his/her values.  Plus, it’s a LOT cheaper than a divorce.

Just my thoughts…

Take care!

Alison

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