Wedding Chicago: Merging Families

June 6, 2005

Building a relationship with your in-laws can take time, but it’s worth it in the long run.  My husband and I come from different cultural backgrounds, so we weren’t sure how our families would react to our relationship.  Luckily, both sides of the family accepted us from the very beginning and wholeheartedly support our marriage.

Some couples are not so lucky.  On occasion, well-intentioned loved ones have been known to drive a wedge between the couple simply because they disagree with their choices.  For example, one of our brides dropped out of college to marry the man of her dreams.  In response, her parents kept the fiance’ at a distance and refused to contribute financially to the wedding.  She accepted their decision regarding the money, but she was hurt that they didn’t even make the slightest effort to get to know her future husband.

I’ve had several friends and family members who married folks with different types of unpleasant character defects.  I still have these people in my life because I chose to support their decisions.  My goal is to always respect my loved ones and the choices they make.  I can agree to disagree, but that’s it.

Have a great day!

Comments

What a supportive friend and family member you must be!  I will admit it is difficult to bite your tongue when you see friends and/or loved ones “wronged”, but we must remember we are not the ones that are facing that situation every day, and to resolve to offer emotional support to our loved ones.  It seems that this may get increasingling difficult to accomplish, so then it’s time to still love them, but agree to love them from afar.  God Bless!!

Posted by  on  06/06  at  04:32 PM

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